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#DGTrends: Women’s Political Participation Beyond Clapping And Dancing

“Youth Participation and Leadership in Political Parties in Africa: Special Focus on Young Women” was the theme of a national youth dialogue hosted by the National Youth Parliament of The Gambia on Saturday 24th November, 2015. . The event, held at the American Corner Comium, was organized as part of a series in various African countries, leading to the fourth High Level Dialogue on Democracy, Human Rights, and Governance in Africa, initiated by the Department of Political Affairs of the African Union Commission.

Think Young Women/2015

Think Young Women/2015

The Gambia dialogue brought together about 50 youth from the different political parties, youth organisations working on issues related to the theme, the local media and representatives of partner organisations. The dialogue kicked off with a short opening ceremony, where these latter gave brief statements, before participants were placed into four working groups, each with a specific focus topic for discussion and consequent presentation.

An effort to live-tweet the discussions, and contribute to the growing online documentation of the dialogues across Africa, led me to float over the four groups, trying to capture the most pertinent points, while gaining a better understanding of The Gambia’s political environment.

Participants deliberated on the theme, with specific discussions on women’s political participation, youth political participation, women’s wings, and youth wings of political parties in The Gambia. One could easily feel the energy in the room as the youth, especially representing the different political parties, shared their experiences and debated various issues in response to the questions tabled before them.

There were moments, when one of the groups got distracted by party politics, as each party sought to highlight its work, but their unity of purpose and the agreement that more needed to be done for youth in politics, eventually drew them back to the task at hand. I was naturally drawn to the two groups discussing questions specific to women’s political participation, and couldn’t help noting a familiar refrain.

Participation, Not Representation

‘Women are not interested in politics or political leadership’ is a statement often heard, when the status quo, where men hold dominance at the helm of affairs, is challenged. The veracity of this statement, I believe, is relative to where we find ourselves, even if passed on as a global truth. One of the women present gave a succinct distinction between participation and representation, noting that women in The Gambia are the largest group of participants in the country’s politics. An observation that was unanimously affirmed by the youth at the dialogue.

However, it is important to note that their participation does not necessarily translate to the effective creation and implementation of policies relevant to the cause of women. Even when women do participate in politics, it is usually on the sidelines, as cheerleaders for men occupying positions of power and making the decisions on all issues. Women are still greatly limited to fulfilling tasks that fit the traditional gender roles which, I daresay, have led us to this point of attempting to diagnose the reasons behind the low political participation of women.

Wielding the power of mobilization and coördination, women are greatly involved in all preparations leading to the moments that truly matter, handling the cooking and feeding of the masses, the cheering and dancing for prospective male leaders, and forming the bulk of the people dressed in ashobee to show support and solidarity. Yet, they remain on the fringes, sometimes never knowing or understanding the proceedings of political meetings and gatherings, where key decisions are made.

At an event in Uganda this summer, attendees raised the issue of women participating in conferences as singers and dancers, and never having the chance to get into the conference halls to use these same voices to their benefit. As a result, their contributions are not reflected in the final resolutions and decisions made, thereby placing a dampener on their hopes to have their voices represented, and their problems addressed at these gatherings.

The exception to this norm is seen in the few women who rise to secure and maintain a place at the decision-making table. We refer to them as having broken the glass ceiling, and keeping hope alive that more women will make it to those positions, leading to more impactful change in the lives of the majority of women who do not have that opportunity. Representation matters, but how well-represented are women and girls in political spaces, even by the women who have a seat at ‘the table’?

It is worthy of note that not all of these women are elected to these positions, the majority making that ascent through nominations. This begs the question: who do they really represent? A lot of talk has emerged on increasing the number of women in political leadership spaces, and promoting its longevity through a quota system. This is done, of course, with the assumption that the more women we have in these spaces, the better chances we will have of addressing issues related to women at the policy level. The reality shows us different, with tokenism being the order and many women in these positions subscribing to the views and voices of their male counterparts, who are still in the majority. Otherwise, they are ‘yes women’ to the views of the political parties they represented, as opposed to the many people who placed them in those positions, if they were elected.

A solution was suggested: more women should rise to the occasion and contest elections, starting at local government and moving up to the presidential race. Though ideal, this suggestion ignores a multitude of factors and conditions, especially social, which could be a limitation to realizing this idea.

Social Factors Need To Be Taken Into Consideration

Much hope is placed on the youth to create a new generation of leaders that challenge and close the gender disparities in politics, especially with effective and impactful representation. Encouragement is doled out in generous amounts to young women, reminding them that the past is gone and the future is theirs to shape.

This is a positive step towards closing the gaps, but it should be proffered on realistic grounds, taking into consideration the social set-up of our various societies, and how this affects the leadership aspirations of girls and young women. Gender inequality in all spheres hinders progress and has a consequent effect on the issue at hand.

We live in societies where the role of a girl is defined even before birth, and her life is set to follow the path created without her contributions, and with little regard to her preferences and ambitions. It begins with the provision of quality education for the girl child, which has, for a long time, been trashed in favour of teaching girls to handle domestic responsibilities in preparation for marriage and child-bearing.

Progress has been recorded in this regard, but there is still a gap in the figures for enrolment and those for completion. This is due to several reasons, ranging from financial inability to the intentional decision to pull girls out of school and marry them off. For those who do complete secondary school, many are still denied the opportunity to access higher education, based on the belief that too many professional qualifications may render them undesirable to men, for marriage.

From a very early age, our societies teach girls to be followers, to embrace their place as secondary citizens in most spaces, and to submit to the will and desires of the men in their lives, including fathers, brothers, husbands etc. Girls are taught to be seen and not heard, to use their voices only in ‘women’s spaces’, and to accept their conditions and struggles without much objection. The few who dare to break these laws are referred to as rebels, disrupting the natural order and attempting to get rid of our traditional values.

We cannot expect girls who grow up in communities where leadership has a male face, to suddenly understand that they can be leaders too. The long-term social conditioning has a lasting effect on how far girls go and how much they can achieve, both in personal and public circles. There is an urgent need for change in the messages we send to our children, taking into consideration the effects it will have on their lives. When girls are empowered and raised to believe they are as equally human as men, and have the right to equal opportunities, we create a generation of socially aware, independent-minded young women who will no longer be limited by society’s dictates.

And Still We Hope…

Achieving gender equality in politics is not impossible. There is a growing will to make this a reality, backed by numerous initiatives to facilitate the process. The world can be witness to a transition that opens a path for more women to assume positions of power, and fully participate in decision-making, to advance the cause of women. The necessary structures – social, economic, political- need to be put in place to ensure that these visions are realized.

The involvement of young people will contribute a lot to this process, bringing in new realities where a conscious population is the norm, and everyone is aware of their role in the political leadership of their communities. Social constructs that hinder the progress of women in leadership should be reviewed and revised to ensure access to equal opportunities. Access to data should be improved and conditions made favorable to ease meaningful participation.

The initiatives to involve youth and women in political leadership are commendable, but if these basic challenges are not addressed, we may be hanging on to rhetoric for a while longer, without a chance at progressive change. At best, we will continue to see a minimal number of women ascending to power, with little impact felt in the lives of the majority of women.

The support has been immense, the voting power is evident and the contributions of women in politics, as it stands, are appreciated. However, it is time to move away from the politics of clapping and dancing, to contesting elections and taking our rightful places as leaders beside men. In concert, more progress and development will be registered for our different communities and States, as evidenced in places where women are increasingly active in politics.


Writings On The Walls

The pain that reminds us that we are women is not limited to the one that fiercely arrives every beautiful full moon.

In the centre of nature’s most precious four corners, the one that embodies the strongest walls ever known to mankind also originated a different pain we have come to love. One we treasured, one we fed from the closest point that our heart beats, one we carried on our tired backs.

We fanned their egos at a very tender age, allowed them to believe that they were the alpha and omega. The bane of our existence.

This pain turned into one we can’t live with and can’t live without either.
Or so we believe.

We have lived side by side with them, in four-cornered walls. We have let them live within our sacred walls as well.

We have taken long rides with them, climbed the tallest and shortest mountains. Mastered every rock and conquered every obstacle along the blissful journeys we have taken together.

Spirit, mind and body we have shared with them. And in return they hide their true spirits, share a very calculated part of their mind but share all of their body with us.. With any of us that is willing or unwilling.

For centuries we have lived in this truth, a truth that falls in the ears of the deaf, seen by the eyes of the blind and spoken by the tongue of the dumb it would seem.

Because in this moment, as you read these words, we are still living in this truth as it continues to fall in the ears of the deaf, seen by the eyes of the blind and spoken by the tongue of the dumb.

The body we had shared sacred moments with, the one created strong and mighty to protect us is now being used as a tool of weapon against us.

Willing or unwilling.

This pain that knocks all four walls of mine every full blessed moon.. The one that  takes my mind back to my choices, back to my dreams, back to my regrets, reminds me that I am a woman who only existed to procreate with those who have been brought upon this earth through us; as I hold my stomach and close my teary eyes to sleep laying next to the body that was meant to give me pleasure and protect me.

Willingly or unwillingly.

Mariam Dainty

Woman, Honor Thyself

‘Why do boys insult their mothers instead of their fathers? ‘

It’s because mothers insult themselves first’.

Interacting with boys and girls of St Peter’s Technical School in Lamin during a co-ed meeting organised by Starfish International, these were some of the questions and responses that popped up. Initially, the radical feminist in me scratched the responses out as  mere excuses from the boys to continue their almost-accepted saaga ndeye around town. Growing up in The Gambia, it has become ‘normal’ to hear the very (in)famous ‘Chapandeyam‘ on the streets. Excuse my language but please tolerate it for the sake of this post. To non-Wolof Linguerites, this is an insult directed at mothers, which has almost become an anthem in the streets and many homes in the country. On many occasions, I’d hear people shout it out and I would, in turn, mutter ‘and to the fathers too‘ under my breath. However, my attention today is going to be shifted to the mothers, inspired by the responses offered by the boys on that rainy Saturday. After reflecting on the validity of their claim, I tied my feminist alter-ego to a tree and watched as a mini-debate unfolded. After deep thought, I felt I had understood their stance and started looking at the problem in a new and different light.

How many times have we heard a mother, frustrated with a stubborn child, shout out words like ‘Sor emut ma nyeff sa ndeye‘? Once? Twice? Uncountable?

Now that’s exactly the point these boys were trying to make. We bemoan the situation at hand and immediately tend to judge the young men and even women who take liberty in uttering such profanities. Seldom do we take time to look at the root of the problem, as with many other problems in the country. I am not going to act all 21st century Holy Mother and shun people who have, at some point in their lives, used the phrase as an arm against a contender or otherwise. I’ll take the liberty of owning this blog to talk to my sisters, mothers, aunts and all other female folk.

Source: rosaire-de-marie.fr

In the Virgin Mary, we see an example of a pious woman. The Quran states that she is “exalted” above all women and the most righteous woman to ever walk the Earth. Of all the women of her time, she was chosen to be the mother of the Prophet Essa(Jesus).  In the first verse of Surah Nisa’ or ‘the women’, The Holy Qur’an directs us all to “revere the womb that bore you”. Women have been raised to a high state in religion and I cite the example of the man who visited the Holy Prophet Muhammad(PBUH) and asked to whom his first responsibility is owed. The Prophet responded ‘Your mother’ and repeated it twice before answering ‘your father’ after the man had asked for the fourth time. How much more evidence do we need to realise the sanctity of our existence and the importance of our role in shaping our various communities as women? I could go on to state even more examples from the religious and social circles, but I choose to stick to the Virgin Mary for reasons better explained in a previous post: Mariama Linguere.

Often, we complain of the lack of respect from other people. We whine and fuss about our men ‘using,misusing or abusing us’. Often, we let out deep sighs and wish out loud that ‘he would deal with us in a bit more civilized and respectful manner’. However, do we really take time out to think about the many reasons why women are treated in some ways? I am not, in any way, trying to justify the mistreatment of women and I don’t see myself doing that ever. This time though, I wouldn’t go the all-too-familiar route of heaping blame on the male folk and on other women who insult us. I simply ask, fellow females, that we respect ourselves. In the description of this blog, I cited my desire to be respected by respecting. The latter here starts from self-respect. I strive to understand and appreciate what I am worth and respect the person that I am. Furthermore, I make it a point of duty to respect people I come across, regardless of the many (or maybe few) differences we may have. In turn, I expect to be respected in the same way, for when people see me then, they would envision a woman who respects herself and others in all she does.

A few days ago, a former classmate let out a mini-rant on Twitter, bemoaning the constant use of the word ‘bitch’ by females on public forums. Some would go further to throw out the now ‘in’ line ‘I’m a bad bitch‘. The said classmate echoed thoughts I had voiced out previously in some private space away from the public eye. How familiar is the story of that one woman who would use derogatory terms on herself and think it cool, but then flare up when the same term is used on her by someone else? Very familiar right? Is it safe, then, to conclude that I can choose to say all I want to myself but no one else dares do the same, or they’ll be served a helping of my bitter medicine? It’s quite confusing and one wouldn’t usually know where to draw the line and when to throw in the towel and just walk away from the twisted lane. I am not one to take all things on cyber space seriously. I remember arguing ‘heatedly’ with a dear friend over the use of the ‘F’ word on Twitter. He had decided to un-follow anyone who used it in their tweets. Being free to talk with him about various things and not expect an outburst of anger, I pointed out that not everyone using the ‘F’ word meant it in the way he perceived. It is true that people throw it around freely, but I am of the conviction that it is totally wrong to judge someone because they decided to use the word. Contradictory? I would think not. Anyway, I digress.

In a nutshell, I am simply asking (again) that we exude the same personalities we would want people to recognize us by at all times. Stop taking offence each time someone throws a derogatory remark your way. Sometimes, it would be wise to just take a moment and think about the possible reasons why that person would go down that lane. If you feel it wasn’t deserved, I give you the licence to strike him/her down with your latest pair of 6-inch heels. I kid; no violence around here. Seriously though, let’s be mindful of the words we utter and in what situations or surroundings. Mothers, maybe if we stopped using swear words in the presence of our kids, they wouldn’t pick up the same habit and perpetuate the cycle. Dear Fathers, you equally have that role to play. If we try to inculcate great values in our children, we might very well be on the verge of sending the all-too-famous saaga ndeye into extinctionIt might be unwise to consider this a ‘one cap fits all’ kind of solution, but who knows, it just might be the stepping stone we’re looking for.

Dear woman, honor thyself for thou art truly honorable.


P.S: I’d love to know what you think about the new theme,after discussing the topic at hand of course.  Feel free to share the link too, so other women might learn a thing or two from it. 🙂

MILEAD Journals: Gender Roles, Advocacy and Sisterhood

It’s Sunday and we finally get a chance to sleep in and enjoy some beautiful dreams after an intense week of lectures and other activities. We planned to spend the day at the beach, as our way of exploring Ghana, but the weather does not look too good and most of the girls are still in bed even as I write this entry. Knowing the bunch of energetic and fun-loving ladies we are, we just might go ahead and enjoy a rainy day outdoors!

At the MILEAD Institute, every single minute counts and thus, Saturdays are full working days. Our hopes for lecture-free weekends were soon pushed to the rear when the program schedule was handed over to us. We’re not complaining though, as every lecture has interested and enlightened in its own way. Since classes started on Wednesday, we’ve met some of the most amazing women leaders and shared precious moments with them. Yesterday, we were blessed to be introduced to Madame Angela Dwamena-Aboagye for two lectures on Gender Roles and Values and Advocacy Skills . Angela is the Founder and Executive Director of Ark Foundation in Ghana. Her organisation provides a host of services for the empowerment and advancement of women in Africa.

Angela Dwamena-Aboagye

Her first lecture took us through identifying the differences between gender and sex; the former qualified as ‘socially constructed’ and the latter, ‘biologically defined’. Basically, our sex is determined by Nature and one is considered male or female depending on their sex organs. Gender, however , is determined by the society and environment in which we find ourselves. It includes variables identifying differences in roles, responsibilities, opportunities, needs, constraints etc. We looked at and analysed various facets of the gender question including: the distinctive features of Gender, gender roles, gender relations, the relationship between gender and culture, gender bias etc. The lecture was punctuated by the usual questions and contributions from the brilliant fellows and the interaction helped to bring out the best in each of us.

As part of the lecture, each fellow was asked to write one thing they do not like but are forced to do  and one thing they would love to do but cannot just because they are female. The ladies talked about various things which resonated, somehow, with everyone else. On the first list, a good number of fellows including yours truly, noted cooking as something they wished they didn’t have to do just because of their sex. Most love to do it when they want to and feel like doing it. In the end we decided to form the Anti-Cooking Coalition. We kid, of course. On the second point, fellows listed things like paying for a date, ability to ask a guy out, propose marriage, drive a taxi, ability to stay away from bras etc. In a nutshell, the exercise helped us to identify the way society affects the various gender roles assigned to the different sexes. Note, however, that there are exceptions in some cases as was seen with the Liberian fellow. She explained how gender roles were almost the opposite in her country where women are expected to drive on their own etc, in contrast to situations in some other countries.

After a short break, we did a short exercise to get us ready for the second lecture. You would think it would be excruciatingly painful to sit through two 2-hour lectures from the same resource person but the case was entirely different for us. The lecture on Advocacy Skills got even more interesting as all the Fellows could contribute actively in the discussion, given the varying levels of experience we all had in the field. We looked at the different types of advocacy, the process steps to ensure effective advocacy, the risks involved, the potential benefits etc. This tied in with the lecture on Effective Communication Skills we’d had the previous day. I got to share my experience advocating with the Tuta Pack Action Group, which aimed to end the indiscriminate sale of alcohol to minors in The Gambia last summer. I explained the path we took and the eventual results attained from the campaign and my chest swelled with pride when the group was applauded by everyone present. Other Fellows got to share their experiences too and we had a Q&A session after the lecture before heading out to lunch.

Team Building time came up right after and we went through one of the most trying experiences. The planning team had decided to test our leadership skills and assess our reaction when faced with a difficult situation. Two Fellows were picked upon and informed that the group was disappointed by their actions which involved gossiping. As a group of ladies living together, we thought it was the best trick we could use  and it worked. At first, I could figure out it was all a joke but things got really serious with the great actresses we had. In the end, both Fellows were able to defend themselves in different ways, proving that they could handle the negativity they are expected to receive as leaders. After a round of tears and objection from some fellows who did not agree with the method used ( Yours truly included), we headed out for a game of musical chairs. It was loads of fun and helped us to bond some more.

The third lecture on Leadership Dimensions did not hold and we used the time to do three Fellow presentations. This has been the most emotional moment I’ve had since coming to Ghana. The three ladies talked about themselves, their families, education and the work they were involved in. They also shared personal stories because they felt they had found sisters in all the Fellows and so felt safe to share their experiences. It was one rocky ride and I’m bracing myself for more as everyone else has resolved to open up some more to enable us create a support system for one another . One of the fellows broke into tears as she spoke about her experiences as an immigrant in the United States who felt alienated when she went back to her home country. The room went quiet and the looks on our faces reflected the struggles each one had gone through. In my attempt to encourage her through sharing my story as an immigrant student in Morocco, I also broke down. In our sadness and sudden rush of emotion, we all felt like one and there was a silent resolve to be there for each other. This taught me to respect every person and never try to judge people as we never can tell the battle they are fighting. It was an eye-opener for us all.

Today’s Values

(i) Authenticity

(ii) Integrity

(iii) Faith

The evening was spent dancing after dinner and I later visited the mall with Tayo (Ghana) and Ann (Botswana/Malaysia). It was late and most of the shops had already closed but I shall return to explore and spend a few cedis. Some of the ladies went out clubbing while the rest of us stayed back and hooked up with our computers. Right now, we’re off for lunch and will finally decide if it’s a ‘yes’ for the beach. Stay posted for another week of inspiration, education, interaction, love, care and friendship. MILEAD is truly an experience worth living. Catch you soonest! 🙂